Let’s Talk About Boundaries

How many of us have been betrayed or deceived by people we once thought were our friends? These were people we invited into our homes, these were people we once considered as family, these were people who we thought had our best interests at heart. Then we find out it was all a facade. Everything was a lie. You begin to question everything and soon, the pain from their betrayal hits you like a ton of bricks. Depending on how bad the betrayal is or was, it can take days, weeks, months or even years to recover or get over it.

We’ve all been there unfortunately, and I think we can all agree that it sucks! If you are anything like me, I will take the time to look back on everything (after my mind is clear and the pain has subsided) and that is when I soon realize that there were signs or red flags that I completely missed or ignored. How could I be so foolish? Ugh, never again! Lesson learned.

I have only been “burned” once in my life and that was enough for me. From that experience, I learned to set boundaries with the quickness, and I am a much happier person because of it. Over the years, I have spared myself from getting wrapped up with the wrong people and it’s because I set boundaries. I can’t tell you how many people I have met over the years who would smile and laugh with me–even try to hang out with me, but I knew deep down inside they were nurturing hate, envy or jealousy in their hearts. Because I kept them at a safe distance, their true colors eventually showed.

Here’s the thing, a deceitful person can’t hide who they are very long when they are kept on the outside or at a distance. Why? Because it kills them mentally and emotionally. Don’t be believe me? Just try it and you’ll soon see. They foam at the mouth with anger when they realize that you figured out their deceitfulness and cruel motives and whenever that happens, I always get filled with glee!

Now it is important to mention that not all people are like this, but so many people are and that is the scary part. There are so many people out there in the world who only want to get close to you because all they want to do is destroy you. How sad. So be mindful of who you call a friend and who you allow to get close to you. Never feel bad or guilty about setting proper boundaries because when you set proper boundaries, you protect yourself and those you love from unnecessary pain, frustration and heartache.

😉-Anita